Calibration gets you laid!

Everything you’re learning, all the approaches you’re doing develop your personality and show you how to adapt. And, as you all know, those who do not adapt do not make it in life. Once I understood this I made a point of learning to calibrate in every situation. Now, years after, I’m giving you all that I’ve learned regarding calibration.

Calibration one on one

1. Calibrate attraction

If she is attracted you can do something to impress her like bringing her to a romantic date && stuff. It won’t hurt your game (but it will send you straight to the relationship frame).

If she is not attracted trying to impress her will hurt your game badly!

2. Calibrate comfort

If she trusts you go for bigger plans (weekends together, roadtrips, etc), she’ll come.

Don’t tell stories that don’t fit with the interaction (e.g. don’t talk about how you almost killed someone with a girl that had 3 dorks for boyfriends)

3. Calibrate teasing

When you’re in the attraction phase tease her a lot. Tease her until she gets offended, then quickly qualify her and start creating comfort. After a while tease her again.

When she smiles you can neg her and she won’t get offended (because she’s in a happy state) but it will lower her ego.

4. Calibrate online

Some introverted SHBs can’t stand being single, if she has changed her Facebook relationship status to single in the last few weeks send her a message and try to establish a date, she’ll be an easy target.

5. Calibrate for quick sex

Check her relationship with her father. If it’s bad (he’s missing, drunk, etc) she’ll probably be a quick lay (daddy issues).

6. How to calibrate in general

Don’t calibrate by your reactions (e.g. you did attraction now you follow with qualification), calibrate by her reactions (she feels attracted => you can qualify her).

Keep in mind that a girl responds in 3 ways: positive (deepen the interaction), neutral (take caution), negative (change subject, change frame)

The three needs a girl can have and how to react to them:

1. she needs to feel comfortable
   • always meet her friends
   • establish social proof
   • tell stories that match
   • give a time constraint
2. she needs trust
   • DLV yourself if you miscalibrated the attraction
   • SOI her
   • qualify her (you like her a lot)
   • listen to her and be genuinely interested
3. she needs to feel attracted to you
   • get DHV in the following order: by her observing you, by your pivot or wing telling her, by you telling her
   • create a jealousy plotline
   • neg her, tease her, use push pull and C&F
   • show disinterest

The tease test

The excerpt bellow was taken from an article from Entropy that I can’t find any more:

So how do we know where we are in regards to her? What’s her perception of us?

I have a simple process that I apply when I’m in set: Once I hook the set, I’ll throw out a very light tease to the girl and see how she responds.

• If she laughs and responds positively, it means my value is equal or slightly higher to hers and I’ll keep teasing until I stop getting a positive reaction.
• If she responds negatively and seems offended, it means I’m OVERVALUED and I stop. I will compliment her, state my interest or DLV myself (buy her a drink) to bring myself closer to her. This is to make me “attainable” in her eyes. You’ll have to do this often with shy or reserved girls.
• If she responds negatively and is cold and bored, it means I’m extremely undervalued and I need to tease her even harder. Girls who react this way, you’re not even on their radar screen yet, so you have to say something really bold and outlandish to wake them up to you.
• If she shit-tests me back in a playful way, it means she values herself slightly more than me, in which I keep teasing until I get a negative response.

Once I know where my value is relative to hers, I follow this blueprint:

• If I’m OVERVALUED, I will compliment her, state my interest in her and even DLV myself.
• If I’m UNDERVALUED, I tease and neg her harder until I get a more positive reaction or she blows me out.
• If I’m around her value, I keep teasing at the same level and being escalating.

Take one of these techniques and try it, come back and report how it went!

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